When the biggest day of your life draws near, every single detail can seem trivial.
Everything from centerpieces to flower arrangements to finger foods to lighting will get planned out to very specific details on your special day.
One important detail are your wedding vows. Many people choose to go with pre-written or traditional wedding vows recited by the officiator.
But sometimes, people decide to write their own vows.
After all, who knows you and your partner’s relationship better than the two of you?
There is no one better at professing your love to each other, so take advantage of that!
Writing your own wedding vows can put what feels like massive pressure on you to get them just right. But there’s no need to struggle.
Follow these simple no-sweat tips at writing wedding vows, and they will soon be another box checked off your to-do list:
- Determine if you and your fiancé will write your vows together or see them before the ceremony. Sometimes, people want their vows to be a surprise. Others don’t. You and your fiancé need to be on the same page as soon as you decide to write your own vows. Take the time to discuss what you want your vows to accomplish.
- Set a structure, tone, and a word count together, even if you will see each other’s vow beforehand. Even set a due date if you need to. You guys want to be on the same page, especially if you don’t know what the other is writing. You don’t want one to be too long or too short or too playful while the other is serious. Planning this out beforehand will help you avoid that disaster.
- Read tons of examples. Use traditional wedding vows as a starting point. What is their message? What are they trying to convey? Don’t be afraid to pull from things other than traditional wedding vows either. Look to books, poetry, movies, songs, and more! The possibilities are endless.
- Think about your relationship. Making a list of important moments and memories that highlight important times in your relationship. Add them into the mix. Try and find words and phrases that convey how you feel about your fiancé that have significant importance to your relationship. You know better than anyone what will touch your fiancé’s heart.
- Write too much. Write a book if you have too. It’s better to start with too much than too little. After all, how can you summarize the miracle of your love in just one or two short minutes? Start by pouring your heart out and refine it from there.
- Keep editing until you have a masterpiece. Move phrases around, swap them for different sayings, or just cut them out. Edit your vows to your heart’s content. Eventually, you will get to the point where your vows are perfect.
Writing you own wedding vows can seem challenging and stressful . But with a little planning and a lot of hard work, you can create vows that are perfect to express your love to your partner on your special day.