I know that the Fall season is coming up and that means a lot of good cable television is on the horizon, but it also means that a lot of wedding invitations will soon be in your mailbox.

I guess you’re getting married yourself. It can be extremely stressful when you know that you’ve found “the one” and you’ve agreed to devote your life to him or her, beginning with that ceremonial wedding.

That’s where it all starts, doesn’t it? It’s not the first time you meet, it’s not the first date, and it’s not the first kiss. Those are just the trials, to see if you can even manage the threshold.

When you make it to the altar, you know that you’ve passed those trials. You went on the dates, you bought the flowers, and you remembered the anniversaries. You’ve earned the right to happiness by spending your life with the man or woman you’ve decided to be with. So again, I ask you, why is it so stressful?

Nevermind the why.

I get it. It’s totally there, standing right before all of us. It’s a big commitment, and it’s ideally something you only do once your whole life.

Avoiding stressful moments in the planning stages of your wedding and the wedding itself are the key traits that accompany starting your new life off smoothly.

You’re never not going to stress about the commitment or the wedding night, so what can you do to make the entire process that much smoother?

Eliminate unnecessary stress, of course.

How do you do that? Well, that in and of itself is another process entirely.

I consider wasteful stress being such as having two people that don’t get along sitting at the same table in your reception’s seating arrangement. Try to avoid that. Put those two at complete opposite ends of the room and let them continue fighting it out over Facebook at another time.

Another thing to consider is your wedding party. That’s the bridesmaids, the groomsmen, the maid of honor, the best man, and you and your spouse, of course.

Who are all of these people? Are they longtime acquaintances or are they people you trust your life with?

If you answered yes to the first one but anything other than yes to the second one, then maybe you should reconsider those particular people.

The people closest to you and your spouses’ hearts will likely not betray you on your wedding day. Give them all the tasks to help with the process. They agreed to be in the wedding, now make them part of the wedding.

The less you have to do, the less stress that comes when that moment comes for you and your partner to each say, “I do.”

Also, don’t forget to talk to your spouse about the stress you’re having.

Chances are, he or she is going through the same thoughts and feelings you are.

If you’re nervous about the wedding night, you can certainly open up to them about that too.

Or talk to your friends. Just talk to anybody who will listen.

Almost everybody can relate in some capacity, because love is the universal language .